Imagine your life filled with the voices of kindness.
Imagine if YOU were the source of that kindness.
You aren't very kind to yourself, are you. (It's not a question.) In the quiet, dark recesses of your brain, you are relentless in the judgments you hurl at yourself. There's a voice... the Bitch. She rages at you when no one else is around.
- "I can't believe I did that. I'm so stupid."
- "I am so incompetent. How come everyone else I know can do this shit, and I blow it constantly?"
- "I am never going to lose weight. I will never be able to eat the right things."
- "My family deserves someone so much more together than I am. I suck."
- "Sometimes, I think they'd all be better off without me."
The Bitch tells you that you have little value. She tells you that you aren't good enough, and will never be good enough. She nags, constantly. Unceasingly. Every hour of the day, she is there, in your head. Berating you.
Do you act on this voice? Not usually. No, mostly you listen, and feel a worm of shame crawling through your stomach, day after day. You aren't depressed, exactly. You just aren't GOOD ENOUGH. And you never will be, either.
But you know what?
Fuck that Bitch.
It's time to shut her the hell up.
By treating yourself with kindness, baby.
You can learn.
Wouldn't it be amazing to hear this voice instead?
- "I just organized my junk drawer. For no reason. I am fabulous."
- "I rocked that presentation at work. I rule!"
- "You know what? I am not doing anything today. I am reading a book. I've earned this."
- "I am going to eat this doughnut. And I am going to enjoy it."
- "I may not be perfect, but I am blessed."
Look, being kind to yourself isn't a cure all. It's not some magical formula that will instantly change your life. But it's a huge step that's missing from so many of our personal journeys.
I know, it seems hard to imagine saying these things to yourself (or saying them without sarcasm). But there is absolutely room for a new voice in your head. It just has to be cultivated.
This new voice? She forgives you. She sees potential instead of regret. Most impressive of all, she can lead you to a dazzling display of new possibilities that have been drowned out by that other voice.
She's out there. Let me help you find her.
What am I gonna learn, exactly?
Self kindness takes a lifetime to learn, because it's a never ending process. But these six weeks will cover enough of the bases to guide you on the road toward a kinder, happier you.
Week 1: Why berating yourself doesn't work. This one is HUGE, and it's what kept you reading this far. We'll talk about your Inner Dialogue. How to take its pulse, and how you can begin to modify it.
Week 2: What are your priorities? What's important to you? How do you uh... prioritize your priorities? We'll talk about setting boundaries, and choosing only those activities that fulfill your priorities (there it is, again).
Week 3: One Thing. It's called setting yourself up for the big wins. This week we'll talk about small goal setting. Not the grandiose stuff. Just picking one task, and getting it done.
Week 4: Rewards. A how-to. We'll talk about the differences between rewards and praise, the appropriate times to utilize them in your life, and make sure there's a lot of clarity around positive versus negative rewards.
Week 5: Praise. A how-to. You've cataloged your negative self talk. Now you'll start cataloging the positive.
Week 6: Wrap up. A chance to celebrate victories, large and small. And plenty of time to ask your last questions, get feedback, and move toward closure.
Fabulous things that clients have said about our work together:
"Briar is the Queen of knowing what to share at exactly the right time."
"Briar always tells me what I NEED to hear, not what I WANT to hear."
"Briar is my sounding board. She asks leading and pertinent questions that have, without fail, offered me a different perspective and have shed light on problems I didn't even think of.
She's been an excellent ally as I muddle through the trouble of my relationship and has become a trusted confidante."
What's it cost, Chuck?
For you? 100 bucks.
That seems cheap and deserving of a side eye.
This here is a beta test. I'm guessing there'll be a few kinks to work out. Stuff might not be pretty. But you will have the opportunity to shape how this class is taught in the future, which may make it even more fun.
Why this is so important to me.
Hi, my name is Briar, and I'm addicted to touch and connection. (Hi, Briar.)
Our sense of touch is the most developed, and yet, the least cultivated. We do very little to encourage ourselves or other people to touch us, and consequently, we enter a state of sensory deprivation. We don't notice, because all our other senses get plenty of use, but on a day to day basis, we encounter very little connection through touch.
What's this got to do with self-kindness?
Well, in a word... everything. Your way of being inside your head, how you see yourself, plays out in all your interactions with other people. Not just strangers, either. Your partner, your kids, the people you care about. If life is a series of connections, then the most important connection is the one you make with yourself.
I facilitate connection.
So, how's it work, then?
Six weeks of immersion. I'll talk you through the process, guiding you every step of the way. I've got a plethora of things you can do, a ton of different ways to learn, create and process. And, because I am intimate with the Bitch, I've got some secret motivational sauce. Stuff that will keep you on track, even when you feel like you've fallen behind.
Every week, you'll get:
- A group call with me, where we go over our goals for the week
- A mantra that you can look at every time you need a little help
- A weekly craft project (yes, crafts)
- Journal prompts
- Weekly homework assignments
Do as much or as little as you want. The choice is entirely yours. Obviously, the more you do, the more you'll get out of it. But I know you also have a life. And there's no guilt, darling.
That's why you'll also get my very best motivational tools:
- Recordings of all our calls
- Regular newsletters that help keep you up to date with what's going on
- A private Facebook group so you can stay accountable with your classmates
- Daily Inspirations--should you choose to accept these short assignments, you'll learn new ways to embrace self kindness
- Weekly contests with prizes. Every time you complete a project or an assignment, you'll get an entry into the weekly drawing. Because everyone loves to win stuff.
For this class session only, I'm also offering 60 minutes of free individual coaching time. Break it up, use it all at once, whatever works best for you. I am here with you in this process, every step of the way.